After all, good sci-fi imagines what our future might be like, based on what it's like today. All things created, were once only in someone's imagination. Did you know that Leonardo da Vinci drew working plans for helicopters, submarines and tanks, back in the 1500s? But he wrote the instructions backwards, so you needed a mirror to read them...and he often left out crucial parts, so that if you tried to build his machines, they would not work. Sneaky? Oh yes. But effective.
So reading romance novels lets you imagine yourself as the heroine in a love story...to imagine what kind of man would be the hero you want to have come into your life. This can only be a good thing. While it is true that no man is perfect, many can be "perfect for you". The male characters I write are "real men"...they have their own ambitions, their own dreams. They are not just cardboard cut-outs, who exist only to satisfy the woman's every desire. Men like that would be boring. Just as women like that are boring. We are all interesting human beings, who need to discover who we are, to know who would make us happy. Don't look for a man to "complete" you. Complete yourself. Then look for a man to raise your temperature and make your heart (and other parts!) sing! Happy Valentine's Day to everyone!